Don’t Let Labels Define You

Life is a constant battle of “Who we are” and “Who we want to be.” Do you ever get caught up dreaming about a life that you want? Do you ever pray to be something other than what you are? Many of us have been in this same situation. We think “if I could just have more money” or “if I could just have what {insert name} has” I would be much better off. We are given our lives because God chose us to live it. He looked at us and determined how we would turn out.  Yes I know some people are better off than we are and some may have better paths, but this is your life that YOU were given, do not take that for granted.

 Many times we are thrown curve balls in life. Divorce happens, we lose our jobs, friendships fail and the list goes on. But why do we always try to portray a different life than what we actually have? This day in time we are forced to meet the standards of society. What if we stood up to society and decided we would live the life we want instead of what {they} want? Better yet who is {they}? We are constantly trying to please others or meet the standards that are set by someone we do not even know. In doing this we miss out on so much trying to live out some other life that is not our own.

I have made many decisions in my life that have molded me into the woman I am today. I have tried things and been in certain situations that made me appear to be someone I was not. But every time I was quickly reminded who I was and where I was from. Some of us have the ability to realize our true identity. Some of us may still be searching. I know I will never be a rocket scientist and I (unfortunately) will never be a well-known model, but the best part about all this is… I am okay with that. I am content living in Michigan, a stay at home wife and being married to my best friend because at the end of the day this is who I truly am. I am not trying to be better than someone else or see how many likes I can get on Facebook or how many people I can convince to believe I am truly happy.  Being truly happy and comfortable in your skin allows you not to care what other people think or continually search for approval.

The older I get the more I understand how important it is to stay true to who you are. Facebook, Instagram, twitter and the list goes on are all ways we strive to keep up with society. The amount of comments or likes we get will never change who we truly are. Do not get so caught up in society that you lose who you are. It is ok to make mistakes. Life allows you to make mistakes… that is how you learn. We must not let others decide who we are. No one lives your life. No one understands your battle, so do not let them determine who you are or how you handle the situation.

Running from our mistakes and who we are will only result in more hurt and pain. Instead just own up to them and accept that sometimes we make mistakes. We will never be able to influence someone by trying to be something we are not. We lose so many people by trying to live a false life.

“The greatest prison people live in, is the fear of what of other people think.”            – Unknown